As I sit at home watching my little boy chasing the dog around the living room, I find myself reminiscing on all we have been through together. A traumatic pregnancy, a difficult labour and now I embark on the latest journey…becoming a single mum. Of course Oliver still sees his dad regularly and his Nonna and Grandad (his dad’s parents), however I wish I could be on better terms with them…for Oliver’s sake.
Though there are two rules we have laid out in all of this, the first is what I call “the new person” rule, the one thing that I am adamant about in me and my ex moving on is that neither of us will introduce Oliver to our new partner until it is serious and that the other parent consents to it. I don’t want Oliver to have people dragged in and out of his life, it isn’t fair on him. The second is the “no shouting rule” which I guess is one that means the most. I grew up with a very dysfunctional family, I witnessed lots of shouting and abuse, so I will move hell and earth to prevent my boy from going through the same. I never want him to witness what I did so for that reason, I refuse to even discuss anything that could result in an argument in front of him.
Very empowering! I wish you the best of luck in this journey bird! x
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Definitely keep your friends close. Good luck on your journey 🙂 #LGRTStumble
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Thanks for your message of support for Amy!
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Thanks for your message of support for Amy!
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Hope it works out well for both of you. Your guiding principles sound like they are very well thought out and should help you in the whole process. Best of luck #LGRTStumble
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Oh, good luck! It must feel scary, a bit exciting, lonely, empowering… all the emotions! Thanks for sharing with #TheMMLinky x
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I have so much respect for single parents, I find parenting so so hard and that's even with a husband around for support! #itsok
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It’s not an easy road but you will do it for your boy. Stay strong.
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You sound like one strong mummy! I think it's great you've agreed to some ground rules. Good luck with your new journey, I hope it takes you and Oliver to great places! x #itsok
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Having been through this myself I agree it all gets better and easier in time. And friends are the best in times like this. I had the task of finding a new home, moving by myself and finding a job with a 4 and almost 2 year old. I had a very hard time at first, struggled to sleep, I was depressed and seeing a therapist. If it wasn't for my friends and close family I wouldn't of made it through the dark times. I can honestly say I'm in such a good place now and I have a great future ahead of me. I have an amazing boyfriend who has a close bond with my kids, he obviously doesn't replace their dad but he plays an important role in my house. Some things just aren't ment to be and people fall out of love but it doesn't have to effect the children involved. Well done for being a strong momma ��
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