This is totally normal from what I’ve heard from every parent, but it’s hard to think of that when you’re experiencing a toddler meltdown. A couple trips out I’ve had with friends have turned into me trying to distract or negotiate with my daughter to stop her screaming. Whether this is the right thing to do I don’t know! I’m tackling anxiety anyway at the moment and it puts me on edge to go out much knowing how she can get at the moment. I know it’s just a phase and I’m so proud of her for making her own decisions on things but the hitting is the worst thing. She’s not just hitting me, (not hard) but she’s hitting herself in the face if she can’t tell me what she wants. It’s horrible to see and I’ve only ever taught her that hitting is wrong. Her speech is coming along so well at the moment so with any luck I’m thinking that the more she can communicate, the less frustrated she will be getting.
I read on a mums’ social group that some other mums were having the same worries about this phase. It can come earlier than 2 years old!
I realised that it’s not me having an inability to properly look after my daughter. Why is it that it’s always my go to, to blame myself as a mother? I look around and it’s like every other mum has things all sorted out, but they’re going through it too, or have gone through it. I’m not doing anything wrong! It shouldn’t matter what people think when I’m out with her, I’m dealing with it, mkay? Just please don’t come over to me to make a point of telling me that my daughter has just screamed loudly or that she’s making a funny noise. I am well aware! I wish people didn’t have to draw so much attention to a situation or make suggestions on what I should do, it makes my anxiety that I was previously managing worse!
I reckon it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed because it’s not easy when your child is hanging off you and squealing that they want more biscuits and don’t want to leave the park. It’s all amplified when your tot is teething too, which is our other joy at the moment.
So yes I didn’t do much house work today. I couldn’t be bothered to cook anything for myself and my partner, I’ll order takeaway. I’m going to put my feet up and be proud that we got through today without tears, (on my part) and I know I’m not alone! Give a mum a high five. We’re awesome! We’ll get through this again tomorrow.