This year has been the first so far that Olivia has been able to properly enjoy Halloween. It’s been so exciting! For weeks she has been asking to put her Halloween outfit on, she knew she had Halloween parties to go to and was super excited for those too!
On Saturday, we drove back home from Nanny’s house and arrived back in Aldershot at around 1pm. FOR FIVE WHOLE HOURS SHE WAS ASKING TO GO TO THE GOD DAMN PARTY!!!!!
But that’s another story (look out for ‘What to do when your kids drive you absolutely bloody insane’).
One thing I won’t do, however, is take her trick or treating.
Maybe it’s my job (I’m exposed to people who do truly unthinkable things to their own children, let alone anybody else’s!), or I’m just a horrendous cynic for all things that are actually nice, but the whole premise of trick or treating for children really terrifies me. For now, she is not old enough to understand ‘stranger danger’, and as a baby she was never fussy about who she would go to. She would happily have cuddles from people she didn’t know, and even though now she’s more wary of new people, if I’m there in close proximity (but not necessarily in eyesight) she would still be quite happy to run into the arms of someone she doesn’t really know!
Why, would I then throw into the mix that she can go and knock on strangers’ doors and ask them for sweeties?
You don’t know who is behind those doors. It could be anyone.
You may think I’m being seriously over-protective, but even with me there, I wouldn’t like to send that message to her so early on that this is a normal thing to do… She understands Halloween, she has loved dressing up this year and she has had 3 parties before it’s even ACTUALLY Halloween – She doesn’t understand that it is just one day.
I would love to be able to put aside the horror stories I’ve invented in my mind and take her trick or treating, and, in fact, I most probably will do when she’s older. Truthfully, I’m sure that there are very few cases of knocking on the doors of sex offenders (unbeknownst to you, of course – I’m sure you wouldn’t knowingly go knocking on the door of someone on the register when you’ve got kids with you or not!) but for now I don’t want to run the risk of letting Olivia think that she can do this whenever she likes.
She has no concept of time yet, only ‘now’, ‘soon’, or ‘later’. I’m not able to explain to her that this is okay because Mummy’s here and we only do it once a year.
Even if I could explain that to her, in principle, am I okay with it?
Like I said, maybe I am just a horrendous cynic, but you really do not know who or what is on the other side of the door. There have been times when I took my stepdaughter out before Olivia was born and some houses really do go all out on their ‘tricks’ rather than their ‘treats’! I mean, enough to scare a grown adult let alone a child. I get that Halloween is meant to be scary, but realistically now it’s for kids and adults to dress up and have fun, isn’t it? Like many public holidays, it’s commercialised 1000%.
There are houses on our estate that literally kit out their entire garages with Halloween displays and games etc., but I’ll only admire them from a distance myself!
All in all, it’s a nice idea. But it’s actually quite terrifying, and maybe for the wrong reasons. Maybe I’m better suited to being the nice mummy opening the door and handing out the ‘treats’!
Do you take your kids trick or treating on Halloween? Let us know in the comments!