Health and Wellbeing

Do I follow my head or my heart?

Recently I made the decision to leave my partner of 5 years and move back in with my parents. It’s a decision I never thought I would have to make and this made it even harder. My head was saying leave but my heart wanted me to stay so I was very conflicted about what to do. So what do we do when our head and our heart have different opinions? How do we finally reach that all important decision?

1. Ask for advice from friends and family
This was the biggest help for me as my friends are usually the ones to remain unbiased and give me tough love when I need it. They were able to organise my thoughts without hesitation and made things really clear.

2. Don’t rush it.
The last thing you want to do is to get caught up in the moment, make a rash decision and then end up regretting it. Take as much time as you need to decide what is best for you.

3. Think about the outcomes.
Weighing up the outcomes of your decisions can be very helpful in stressful situations. It makes you think about which outcome is best for you and how you can reach the ideal outcome.

4. Remove yourself from the situation.
If you are constantly surrounded by whatever is causing you stress, remove yourself. Take a few days to take care of yourself and try to take your mind off of it. Whether that be a day out with your friends or having a self care day, just make sure you are focusing on yourself and not the stressful situation back home.

However you deal with things, you should always make the decision that is right for you. Just because you love someone, it does not mean you should stick with the stress or upset that comes with that love. You are worth so much more.

What do you do to help make big decisions? We would love to hear from you!

If you liked this you may enjoy reading…


8 thoughts on “Do I follow my head or my heart?

  1. Ali Duke

    I have just gone through a very stressful personal situation which has meant my husband has moved out. Everyone kept telling me to follow my heart and do what makes me happy, but things are never that simple are they. The space I have now has helped me to see things a bit more clearly.#KCACOLS

  2. Carol Cameleon

    I'd say to definitely give yourself plenty of time to consider all your options. That said, do what feels right and go with your hunch. It's a difficult one. #kcacols

  3. Awdures

    You've got to do what's right for you, and your future. I made the same decision ten years ago and although its been tough we haven't really regretted going our own ways. Take time and breathe. Thinking of you, and thanks for linking up and sharing this with us at #KCACOLS <3

  4. Lydia C. Lee

    I'm glad you made the right decision. I think the head is usually right, if you can separate the thinking from the feeling…#KCACOLS

  5. Twicemicrowaved Tea

    It's always so hard to know what to do for the best, especially when there are children involved. There are lots of things to consider, but you've got to do what's going to be best for you. #kcacols

  6. Life-As-Mum

    Oh bless you lovely. Sounds like you've done the right thing though. All the best and big hugs. Thank you for linking up with #KCACOLS this week. Hope to see you again next week.

  7. […] Do I follow my head or my heart? […]

  8. […] Do I follow my head or my heart? […]

Leave A Comment