This last week has been very busy. Me and my partner decided to leave our first home and move in with his parents. Now, I can already hear many of you shouting WHHHHHY at your screens, but we obviously had our reasons.
We have never been what you call ‘responsible with money’ and unfortunately we found ourselves in a hole that would’ve taken a miracle to get out of whilst renting. So, in order to get our finances sorted, we packed up and moved into the in-law’s house so we can firstly, pay off what we owe and secondly, save up for a deposit for a house that we could really call a home.
It’s only been five days but honestly, I feel happier already. No, our finances aren’t sorted but there is now a chance for them to be in the future. The idea that in a couple of years, we could have no debt and possibly saved enough for a deposit on a house, makes me so excited for the future. I’ve also found that me and my partner are happier together. There isn’t this constant worry hanging over us about whether we could afford to pay a certain bill or tension because one of us bought something we didn’t have the money for. We are enjoying time with each other without nagging or bickering and it feels amazing.
Obviously, living with the in-laws does have it’s disadvantages as well…
(Cynthia and Tony, if you’re reading this, I’d stop now)
We are sharing a bedroom with our 2 year old daughter at the moment, so we don’t really have the space to relax and spend time with each other as a couple. Which was to be expected and will make the time we spend together in our next home even more worthwhile, so it’s not that big of a deal.
The other downside to sharing a room with our daughter (and this is why I asked you to stop reading Cynthia and Tony) is that romance is slightly tricky when you have a toddler sleeping at the end of your bed. So as much as we’re happier as a couple, there is a little less us time than what we are used to.I’m not going to say that this will work for everyone, I’ve been lucky that I get on with my in-laws and we are lucky enough to have this as an option. But as I said, it’s only been five days so it’s still early days. I will be sure to keep you updated on how things are going and how well we are saving.
Have you ever moved in with your in-laws to save money or maybe you couldn’t think of anything worse, let us know in the comments!
Sarah Barber
I’ve lived with my mother in law before, and she’s like a mum to me in the absence of my own! I’d only been with Jamie for about a year when I moved in with her for 2 weeks and even now given the chance to stay with her I’ll jump at it! I’m definitely one of the lucky ones 😊
Aimee Hyder
Me and Ash had been together for a couple of months when we first moved in with them! So moving in this time was like going back to an old home 🙂
Unknown
I loved with my in-laws for 4 years. We got on really well! Obviously it had it's moment were it was difficult. We had two children, no us time and a house full of people. But we now have bought our first home, it's made it more special and we appreciate all of the help the in-laws gave us to allow us to save for our home. Good luck on your saving!
Unknown
*lived *
Aimee Hyder
Good for you! That moment when we finally own our own home will be so worth it!
Jessica Powell
I've never lived with my in-laws, but we did live with my parents for a while. It had its problems – overcrowding, lack of privacy, etc – but overall I enjoyed it, and it was nice to always have other people around. Good luck with the saving! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time. 🙂
Daydreams of a Mum
I think anything that can put your mind at ease and lessen stress has to be a good thing. Sure it'll have its up and downs but doesn't everything . Good Luck with saving #blogcrush
Sarah Barber
Thanks Jessica!
Sarah Barber
Hit the nail on the head there! Thank you for commenting!
Madeline (This Glorious Life)
I think it sounds like you've made just the right decision for you as a couple and a family, especially if you're already noticing that you're less stressed and excited for the future. x #KCACOLS
Sarah Barber
It’s all about working out what works for you! There’s no one answer. Thanks for commenting
Awdures
We are actually very very lucky as our landlord was going to sell our house from underneath us last year and I'm lucky my partner is more responsible than I am with cash because we managed to buy a house. But I totally get it. I've just signed up with step change to get my unsecured debt sorted out, and it feels like such a relief! #KCACOLSShan x
Sarah Barber
step change is really brilliant – glad it all worked out for you! thanks for commenting x
Lydia C. Lee
OMG! I couldn't even do this with my own parents, let alone in laws! But if it sets you on the right track, good for you. And how lovely for your daughter to get such a close bond with her grandparents! #KCACOLS
Aimee Hyder
Me and my partner have been together 5 years and only spent 2 and a half years of that living alone together. So moving in with either set of parents would have been like going home! Thank you for commenting! x
Veronica Lee
I am with Lydia C. Lee!! I couldn't do this even with my own parents but really, if it works out for you, why not?#Kcacols
Sarah Barber
Exactly! Thanks for commenting
GorgeousGsmama Blog
Best of luck with it all. We are a little far reverse to you in that we own a home but we are selling to use the equity to get us out of a hole and move into rented. It’s scary but it brings exciting prospects with it. I hope it all works out for you. Thanks for linking up to #KCACOLS
Carol Cameleon
You've obviously made the right choice for you and your family and that's what matters. I hope it all works out for you. #kcacols